This Valentines, on the other hand, I want…what? I don’t know. Everything, I guess. I don’t care about the flowers or the chocolate. Instead, I want pure eros. Where the man truly yearns for the woman—body and soul. If you ever wondered why the Twilight series was so phenomenally successful, this is it: they depict erotic engagement very well. Not the act of sex, but taking full notice of each other.
As soon as I say this, of course, other issues seep in. I’ve gained weight this winter and don’t feel sexy. I have a writing deadline and will be late to bed. My son is coming home from college this weekend and I’d like to spend time with him. I just changed the sheets.
This integrative, overlapping aspect of a woman’s thinking is somewhat foreign to the average man. He knows that the kitchen needs updating, and that he and his wife haven’t had a real conversation in a week, but it’s just not as much on his mind as it is on hers. He compartmentalizes his thoughts.